Supporting Hands
I recently attended the 12th annual “In The Company of Women” luncheon, proceeds from which go to benefit Becky’s House, Passages and the Cortez Hill Family Center, all programs of the YWCA of San Diego County. It brings together a melting pot of about 800-900 women (and a scattering of brave men) to celebrate an individual’s journey from victim to survivor and educate the audience on how they can help. This year’s keynote speaker was Leslie Morgan Steiner , author of “Crazy Love”, a powerful memoir chronicling her story of a highly educated woman, her whirlwind fantasy courtship, and her years as a severely abused spouse. Her message included a strong plea to everyone – don’t keep secrets – if you’re threatened, leave! And be a friend and confident to others to help keep them safe. The theme of this year’s luncheon was “Supporting Hands” – reach out for them or be one of them.
Although my physical wounds didn’t compare to Leslie’s, my emotional health was on life support more than once. If only I had felt comfortable enough with those around me, if only I could have reached out for help without fear of embarrassment or shame, my path could very well have been different. My message echoes Leslie’s – be an unconditional friend, be in tune with yourself and others, be there to listen (not judge) or help if called upon; avoid the safe excuse of “I don’t want to get involved” – it could save someone’s life.
